Today, we all have a new inspiring female figure to look up to. Nadiya Jamir Hussain won the Great British Bake Off last night in stunning form. But it was the speech she gave after winning that moved viewers to tears, as she articulated the change she now saw in herself.
“I’m never going to put boundaries on myself ever again. I’m never going to say I can’t do it. I’m never going to say maybe. I’m never going to say I don’t think I can. I can and I will.”
This quote is being republished all over the media and internet today, and for good reason. Nadiya’s journey, from nervous, self-doubting hopeful through to confident, glowing winner, is the same as the transformation many of us have faced in our lives. But it is rare to hear someone articulate that moment of wonderful self-belief so perfectly, and it has inspired the nation.
One of the most common reasons that people ask for training and coaching is because they need some help finding their confidence. They want to get to that stage of saying “I can and I will”, as Nadiya did. So how do we help people get there?
For Nadiya, she grew in confidence as the weeks progressed and she was given good, honest, constructive feedback about her performance. She started to recognise when she was doing well, and what she needed to stop doing. She said at one stage that she almost felt she was battling against herself, needing to remind herself of what she had done so far.
This focus on the positive, and battling the internal doubting voice in your head, is the essence of that journey toward confidence.
That is why we believe that all good training and coaching is built around feedback. When we are given useful information about our performance, in a supportive environment that is tailored to our needs, we can exceed our wildest expectations.
When you think about her win, remember this one thing. Nadiya has revealed that her husband had encouraged her to apply for the Great British Bake Off two years ago. She told him “Look, I don’t have the confidence to do something like this”. He kept trying, and eventually persuaded her this year, asking “What’s the worst that could happen?”
Lacking confidence can hold you back from finding out how truly brilliant and exceptional you are. Listen to the supportive voices around you. Be a bit bolder, a bit braver and you might really surprise yourself. And if you want someone to help you take those first steps, get in touch and we will help set you on the road to “I can and I will.”